When Love Feels Heavy: Let’s Talk About Caregiver Stress

 Let me be real with you for a moment.

Being a caregiver is one of the most loving things you can do. But let’s tell the truth, it can also be one of the hardest. You’re taking care of someone you love, but sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.

If you’ve ever felt tired, stressed, or like no one understands what you're going through, I want you to know this: You are not alone. I see you, and I’ve been there.

I took care of my husband for 25 years. I know what it’s like to put your own needs last, to be strong for everyone else, and to feel like no one really sees the work you do. It’s a lot. And it’s okay to admit that.

Here’s something important to know: Caregiver stress is real. And it affects more people than you might think. According to the Family Caregiver Alliance, more than 40% of caregivers feel a lot of emotional stress. Almost 1 in 5 say their own health has gotten worse because of caregiving.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. You matter too.

I didn't always get it right, but here are a few simple things that helped me, and I hope they help you too:

1. Make Time for Yourself

Put it on your calendar, even if it’s just 15 or 30 minutes. Go for a walk, listen to music, or just sit in silence. You need time to recharge. It’s not selfish, it’s smart.

2. Ask for Help

You don’t have to do everything on your own. If someone offers help, take it. And if you need help, speak up. Whether it’s a friend, a neighbor, or a home care worker, let others support you.

3. Get Organized

Try creating a “caregiver command center.” Use a notebook or an app to keep track of appointments, medications, and important info. When things are written down, it’s easier to stay calm and clear.

4. Talk to Someone

Sometimes we need more than rest. Talk to someone you trust , a friend, a counselor, or a support group. Talking can help you feel lighter, even if nothing has changed.

Being a caregiver doesn’t mean you have to do it all. You are a leader in your family. You make hard decisions. You care deeply. That makes you strong, but even strong people need support. One of my favorite quotes is "I'm tired of trying to look stronger than I feel". That quote reminded me to be honest with myself and with others.

You are not just a caregiver. You are The Caregiver CEO. And CEOs deserve care too.

Take a deep breath. You are doing something powerful. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Helpful Resources:

    Family Caregiver Alliance: www.caregiver.org

    National Institute on Aging: www.nia.nih.gov/health/caregiving